by Rica Pabilonia

Do your parents (or his) meddle with you and your spouse?

A relationship is only between the two people. Amidst struggle or rejoice they will face it together. Your parents on the other hand would think what’s best for you, be there for you, they would think they have every right to decide for you even until you’re married. If you don’t comply they would guilt-trip you, they would go for your weaknesses.

This intrusion though should be stopped if they welcome themselves too much into your lives. “If you have parents who show up uninvited, or who spend too much time with you, you might have too little time to be alone with your new partner and formulate your life as a couple,” says Susan Newman, PhD, a social psychologist and author of The Book of NO: 250 Ways to Say It — and Mean It and Stop People-Pleasing Forever.

Even how your family’s lifestyle is and how you raise your children they would join in. The house rules would be altered when they are around or what.

Yes, they may give advises and warnings but that doesn’t mean their relationship is a carbon-copy of yours. “Your parents may make assumptions that you two think the way that they do, and then get angry when you don’t,” says Tina B. Tessina, PhD (aka “Dr. Romance”). Thus, you would need to communicate with them more clearly.

Sometimes these interference which are main cause of fights between couples.

They have good intentions and is thinking of what’s best for you but they are not entirely right. Your relationship is something that is for you to handle.

Source: https://www.thenest.com/content/ways-parents-ruin-relationships